In Memoriam

Just a brief word to mark the passing of a longtime Village Temple member and extraordinary woman, Elinor Ratinor, who died on Wednesday May 15 in her home, at age 94.

I last saw Elinor a few months ago at lunch with Harriet Zimmer. These two amazing women—both in their 90s—were Founding Mothers of The Village Temple. After lunch I accompanied Elinor home. She insisted on walking, though she wasn’t strong and there was a powerful wind that chilly afternoon.  As we made our way across the Village, Elinor talked about her work with the Educational Alliance and various programs to help children in the Bronx and elsewhere. She was smart, tough and inspiring.  Elinor, for many years deeply involved with the Village Temple Soup Kitchen, didn’t just believe in mitzvah, she lived according to that belief.

When I heard that Elinor died I called Harriet to give my condolences for the passing of her dear friend. Harriet told me she was trying not to feel sad though it was hard. She and Elinor were close for more than 50 years. When Harriet turned 90, five years ago, Elinor threw the party for her. Harriet told me the two of them had often discussed death and agreed that when life became so difficult the hardship outweighed the pleasure, they were ready to go.  So, Harriet said, she felt Elinor was ready. But Harriet also said that belief doesn’t soften the blow of losing someone whose friendship was such an important part of her existence for so many years.

Here’s the New York Times obituary celebrating Elinor’s life:

RATNER–Elinor Frances Goodfriend, died peacefully in her home in New York on May 15, 2014, aged 94. She was born in Scranton, Pennsylvania and received her Bachelor of Arts from Wellesley College in 1944. Shortly after her graduation she moved to Washington, DC., where she worked in the Office of War Information. Later she worked for the State Department in New York. Elinor Ratner had a lifetime commitment to social and civil projects. She was a passionate advocate for child welfare programs, principally with Day Care and Head Start in the Bronx. She was Vice President and Trustee of the Educational Alliance, a Co-Founder, former Secretary and Vice President and Board Member of Leake & Watts Children’s Services and a co-founder and Board Member of the GO Project. She was an adviser to the Greenwich Village Society for Historic Preservation and a founder of the Village Temple as well as a tireless supporter of the Temple’s Soup Kitchen. In 1944 she married Robert S. Ratner (1918 1980) and after the war they moved to an apartment on lower Fifth Avenue where she continued to live until her death. She is survived by her two sons, Peter and David Ratner, her daughters-in-law Carol Walters and Dr. Laura Schiller and her beloved grandchildren, Molly, Sophie, Sacha, Suzanne, Erin, Simon and Frances and her great-grandchildren, Ezra, Lilith and Elinor. She held so many in her warm embrace and will be dearly missed. Funeral services will be held on Wednesday, May 21 at 11:45 at Riverside Memorial Chapel, 76th Street and Amsterdam Avenue, Manhattan. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the GO Project or the Educational Alliance.

– See more at: https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nytimes/obituary.aspx?n=ELINOR-RATNER&pid=171041036#sthash.X56gr4QI.dpuf